Comments on: Great moments in narcissism

By: Casey

Casey — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 16:28:10 +0000

Love your blog-

I have realized this for eons, women dress for women. Its hard to swallow and admit that yes, we are a catty bunch. Judgemental, gossipy, the works. But hey! At least we have reason to try and look good, even if its just to ’save face’ in front of other women. I think it would be horrible if we all just didn’t care about our appearance. It is important to self-esteem and self-confidence, even if we hate to admit it.

So, even though I know my husband won’t even notice that I have taken time to curl my eyelashes and that I am wearing the cutest YSL shirt that I saved and saved for, the approving glances I see from behind my Gucci shades (used just for this reason) are affirmation that I look damned good. Makes me feel better.

And yes, I judge. I admit it. But I find that my judgement of others always has a positive tweak, for example, I might say: “She has such an amazing figure, why did she decide to grocery shop in sweats made for someone twice her size”?

By: gina

gina — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 02:56:03 +0000

This is so true. Every word that’s here: so true.

By: Kimberly C

Kimberly C — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 17:40:13 +0000

Why do we do this? Why can’t women stick together?

I am so guilty of both sides of this- the whole ha she got so big, and wondering if people notice that I have 13 year old skin still at 25. Zits still make me nervous, and it is always about other women.

By: Whimspiration

Whimspiration — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 16:52:01 +0000

It is such a relief to know that I am not the freak I thought I was with the being a catty, judgmental bitch, despite all my attempts at the contrary.

On the other hand, if we meet at BlogHer08, you’ll know me instantly. I’ll be the overweight, hairy, dreadlocked chick in tennies and comfy clothes, swaggering around with a drink in one hand and a huge grin plastered on her face. *grin*

Comfy, grin, drink, it’s what I always wear to conventions. I guess I “own” my natural appearance. On the other hand, I owe some of my comfort in how I look to the fact that I was born with perfect eyebrows, and I’m not yet old or hormonally challenged enough to have the beard and mustache my mother shaves off daily. *laugh*

By: Tricia

Tricia — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 18:19:13 +0000

A few years back I was organizing a high school reunion and as a result was talking to old friends. The one conversation I remember, was talking about how much weight we’ve gained in 20 years. We both agreed then and there to greet each other with the following- “Oh my gosh you look great, have you GAINED weight? You look fabulous!” We stuck to it and used it on others as well.

By: Erika

Erika — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 17:02:13 +0000

My husband told me this a while ago. He said he didn’t care if my eyebrows were bushy. He actually liked them because all three of our children have my bushy brows. All I can think about is how cute my baby girl will look when she is old enough to get her brows and upper lip threaded. Is that sick or what? I don’t think about boys though. I think thick, bushy brows on a man is sexy as hell. On a woman, not so much.

By: jess

jess — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 04:25:08 +0000

well, you’ve summed me up in a single blog post.

fuck me.

By: Diane Mandy

Diane Mandy — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 20:26:24 +0000

It’s a great observation and so very true. Women dress for other women. I use to feel that pressure. If I went more thn a week without a manicure I felt as though I should move to Europe for fear I run into another woman I know. Thank God I now live in Europe!

By: She Likes Purple

She Likes Purple — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 19:54:37 +0000

Yep, it’s a fear of mine about BlogHer 08. Have to look fabulous. Have to have new shoes. Have to be thin. I’m annoying myself even.

How about, if we are fortunate to meet up in July, we decide to judge only the other’s ability to handle a shot of tequila

By: Bridal Bird

Bridal Bird — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 17:54:53 +0000

See the key is comfort. That’s why we could have a delightful dinner inhaling fatty cheesy lard poofs and cocktails! Mmmm…good company and fatty cheesy lard poofs….aggghhh….