Comments on: Upon remembrance of you http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/ Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:34:17 +0000 hourly 1 By: Rachel http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5596 Rachel Tue, 23 Oct 2007 14:57:25 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5596 It is interesting to see what you remembered about your grandparents. I remember those things and then some. However, I wish you remembered more of your grandmother, but that's what we are here for....to fill in the blanks. She did do so much more for you than you know (much more than ask what color you were when you were born). I vividly remember the phone call from your dad letting us know that you were born. We were all so excited about you and couldn't wait for you to be born (especially me....I wanted a baby to play with). Mom's first inquiry was not your color, but she wanted to know how her daughter was doing after giving birth. Then she asked your dad if he inspected you and made sure you had all of your fingers and toes and she wanted know if you were healthy. Yes, she did ask what color you were, but not so much to know if you were light or dark, but she wanted a visual of what you looked like (remember this was before digital photography and email). I remember that I wanted to go to Albany so bad to see you live and in living color, but my mom wouldn't let us because, according to her, the baby shouldn't have visitors until she's had a chance to build up her immune system. How long would that take? Two weeks. After the longest two week wait of my life, we were finally going to Albany to see you. Since then (until she was no longer able to do so because of her illness), your grandmother not only adored you, but was your and your mom's biggest supporter....especially through the time when your parents were separating. I remeber the time my mom wore me out going to each and every Buster Brown and Stride Rite in the Queens/Long Island area looking for these red, t-strap shoes that she believed every little girl should have once she started walking good and her first granddaughter was going to have them no matter what. You are extrememly fortunate to have known your grandparents. While I don't know your paternal grandparents, I'm very familiar with your mom's parents and they were and are wonderful people. You are truly Blessed. Can't wait for Paris....Love you, Aunt Rachel. It is interesting to see what you remembered about your grandparents. I remember those things and then some. However, I wish you remembered more of your grandmother, but that’s what we are here for….to fill in the blanks. She did do so much more for you than you know (much more than ask what color you were when you were born). I vividly remember the phone call from your dad letting us know that you were born. We were all so excited about you and couldn’t wait for you to be born (especially me….I wanted a baby to play with). Mom’s first inquiry was not your color, but she wanted to know how her daughter was doing after giving birth. Then she asked your dad if he inspected you and made sure you had all of your fingers and toes and she wanted know if you were healthy. Yes, she did ask what color you were, but not so much to know if you were light or dark, but she wanted a visual of what you looked like (remember this was before digital photography and email). I remember that I wanted to go to Albany so bad to see you live and in living color, but my mom wouldn’t let us because, according to her, the baby shouldn’t have visitors until she’s had a chance to build up her immune system. How long would that take? Two weeks. After the longest two week wait of my life, we were finally going to Albany to see you. Since then (until she was no longer able to do so because of her illness), your grandmother not only adored you, but was your and your mom’s biggest supporter….especially through the time when your parents were separating. I remeber the time my mom wore me out going to each and every Buster Brown and Stride Rite in the Queens/Long Island area looking for these red, t-strap shoes that she believed every little girl should have once she started walking good and her first granddaughter was going to have them no matter what. You are extrememly fortunate to have known your grandparents. While I don’t know your paternal grandparents, I’m very familiar with your mom’s parents and they were and are wonderful people. You are truly Blessed. Can’t wait for Paris….Love you, Aunt Rachel.

]]> By: Anna http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5519 Anna Tue, 16 Oct 2007 15:27:04 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5519 I lost my grandma the day before New Year's. I hate it now too. I lost my grandma the day before New Year’s. I hate it now too.

]]> By: Kelly http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5514 Kelly Mon, 15 Oct 2007 23:21:41 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5514 oh my. Lovely piece. And the part about the Irish Spring? This is how it is with my grandfather. Only it's Safeguard. oh my. Lovely piece. And the part about the Irish Spring? This is how it is with my grandfather. Only it’s Safeguard.

]]> By: gina http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5512 gina Mon, 15 Oct 2007 22:17:59 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5512 Oh, how lovely. I didn't know my grandparents--actually, just one of them. It would be nice to have these reminders of them as I spend a lot of my time wondering who they were and if we would have liked each other. Oh, how lovely.
I didn’t know my grandparents–actually, just one of them. It would be nice to have these reminders of them as I spend a lot of my time wondering who they were and if we would have liked each other.

]]> By: supertiff http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5496 supertiff Sun, 14 Oct 2007 09:19:57 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5496 perfect. perfect, perfect, perfect. i've been struggling a bit about how to approach a similar subject on my own site: now, i think i will just link here, and ask people to it from my point of view, and with my father taking the place of your grandfather. oh, hell. i guess that wouldn't be good enough, either. but at least now i have hope...this post is beautiful. maybe i will be able to find the words after all. perfect.
perfect, perfect, perfect.

i’ve been struggling a bit about how to approach a similar subject on my own site: now, i think i will just link here, and ask people to it from my point of view, and with my father taking the place of your grandfather.

oh, hell.
i guess that wouldn’t be good enough, either.

but at least now i have hope…this post is beautiful.
maybe i will be able to find the words after all.

]]> By: Kyran http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5494 Kyran Sat, 13 Oct 2007 13:55:19 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5494 such a vivid portrait. it shimmers. xo k. such a vivid portrait. it shimmers.

xo

k.

]]> By: Angella http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5492 Angella Sat, 13 Oct 2007 00:52:14 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5492 I saw your Twitter about crying while writing a post. You have me crying while reading said post. My grandparents were clear across the country and me memories of them are spotty at best. I saw your Twitter about crying while writing a post. You have me crying while reading said post. My grandparents were clear across the country and me memories of them are spotty at best.

]]> By: RandomGirl http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5491 RandomGirl Fri, 12 Oct 2007 23:42:36 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5491 I know nothing about half of my grandparents. Both of my father's parents died before I was born. It's hard in those moments when my father compares me to one of them. Seeing their picture and hearing stories about how much they would love me. My mother's parents both died before I was 7. I remember only a little, but the memories I do have are vivid. I remember the peanut butter and butter sandwiches; the loungy type beds they bought for us; my grandpa's roses, wine cellar, and yoga mat. My Aunt moved into their house, and I refuse to visit. I don't want the memories of it being theirs to get muddled up at all. My ex-boyfriend still has all of his grandparents. He likes to complain about them, and each time he does I alternate from being angry at him, and sad for my own loss. Just thinking about them brings tears to my eyes. Thanks for sharing your moments; I hope they keep you and your soul warm forever. I know nothing about half of my grandparents. Both of my father’s parents died before I was born. It’s hard in those moments when my father compares me to one of them. Seeing their picture and hearing stories about how much they would love me.

My mother’s parents both died before I was 7. I remember only a little, but the memories I do have are vivid. I remember the peanut butter and butter sandwiches; the loungy type beds they bought for us; my grandpa’s roses, wine cellar, and yoga mat. My Aunt moved into their house, and I refuse to visit. I don’t want the memories of it being theirs to get muddled up at all.

My ex-boyfriend still has all of his grandparents. He likes to complain about them, and each time he does I alternate from being angry at him, and sad for my own loss. Just thinking about them brings tears to my eyes.

Thanks for sharing your moments; I hope they keep you and your soul warm forever.

]]> By: Dagny http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5490 Dagny Fri, 12 Oct 2007 19:03:29 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5490 Lovely post. Lovely post.

]]> By: Angela http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/comment-page-1/#comment-5489 Angela Fri, 12 Oct 2007 17:23:18 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/10/12/and-then-i-remember-you/#comment-5489 I wish I could remember this much detail about my paternal grandfather. I truly didn't appreciate the moments I had with him enough. Beautiful post. I wish I could remember this much detail about my paternal grandfather. I truly didn’t appreciate the moments I had with him enough. Beautiful post.

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