Comments on: As an aside http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/ Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:51:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Carrie http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-5030 Carrie Mon, 13 Aug 2007 00:09:24 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-5030 Selfish and self destructive, and then secure and happy. I love not being 23 anymore. Selfish and self destructive, and then secure and happy.

I love not being 23 anymore.

]]> By: Lawyerish http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-5003 Lawyerish Fri, 10 Aug 2007 13:02:27 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-5003 Oh, dude. I am late on this one, but I had to weigh in. At 23, I was in law school, and I was massively -- MASSIVELY -- insecure. I was so uncertain as to who I was and who I wanted to be, and I spent a fair amount of time trying ever so hard to be "cool" -- which I never have been and never will be, oh dear Lord. I mean, it was fun, don't get me wrong, and I remain very close with some of the great peeps I befriended back in early-20s-land; but oh MY, how I went down the wrong path boyfriend-wise. And how obNOXious I must have seemed to some people in my life, what with all the lounge-hopping and black-wearing and Cosmo-sipping and (oh, God) cigar-smoking. What can I say -- it was the late '90s, and Manhattan was booming with dot-commers and venture capitalists, and we all got a little heady. I am so, so, so very glad I did not have a blog when I was 23, because as it is I look back at my journals and emails from that time and just want to crawl into a hole. I love the person I am now so much more. Oh, dude. I am late on this one, but I had to weigh in.

At 23, I was in law school, and I was massively — MASSIVELY — insecure. I was so uncertain as to who I was and who I wanted to be, and I spent a fair amount of time trying ever so hard to be “cool” — which I never have been and never will be, oh dear Lord.

I mean, it was fun, don’t get me wrong, and I remain very close with some of the great peeps I befriended back in early-20s-land; but oh MY, how I went down the wrong path boyfriend-wise. And how obNOXious I must have seemed to some people in my life, what with all the lounge-hopping and black-wearing and Cosmo-sipping and (oh, God) cigar-smoking. What can I say — it was the late ’90s, and Manhattan was booming with dot-commers and venture capitalists, and we all got a little heady.

I am so, so, so very glad I did not have a blog when I was 23, because as it is I look back at my journals and emails from that time and just want to crawl into a hole. I love the person I am now so much more.

]]> By: Corinne http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4987 Corinne Thu, 09 Aug 2007 00:00:28 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4987 23...I had been married for less than a year, lived in a one-bedroom apartment in North Hollywood, and drove a 1974 Maverick. God, things were simple. We had everything we needed, including free time together. And then 9/11 happened. Was I doing what I loved? No. It took me until age 28 to figure out that true happiness would entail a graduate degree. I'm honestly looking forward to 30. 23…I had been married for less than a year, lived in a one-bedroom apartment in North Hollywood, and drove a 1974 Maverick.

God, things were simple. We had everything we needed, including free time together. And then 9/11 happened.

Was I doing what I loved? No. It took me until age 28 to figure out that true happiness would entail a graduate degree.

I’m honestly looking forward to 30.

]]> By: sweetpeas http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4980 sweetpeas Wed, 08 Aug 2007 19:06:43 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4980 At 23...I was getting married. It was 1994...I worked a crappy job...lived in a crappy apartment...and drove a crappy car. I think it was probably the happiest I have been in my life. Very minimal needs. Now, I have 2 kids, a dog, a mortgage, 2 car payments, and a "real life." You couldn't have told me then, that I would look at that time fondly, but damn, I do. At 23…I was getting married. It was 1994…I worked a crappy job…lived in a crappy apartment…and drove a crappy car. I think it was probably the happiest I have been in my life. Very minimal needs. Now, I have 2 kids, a dog, a mortgage, 2 car payments, and a “real life.” You couldn’t have told me then, that I would look at that time fondly, but damn, I do.

]]> By: One Scrappy Gal http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4964 One Scrappy Gal Tue, 07 Aug 2007 20:46:24 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4964 Lets see... 23... that was a BIG year for me. That year I: Lived on campus... Was studying for my masters degree... Managed to graduate and obtain said degree... Completed driving classes, passed my test, and obtained a drivers license (hey... I was born and raised in NYC... don't judge me!) Got married to my sweetie weetie of 5 years... Moved to Georgia... So... at 23... I was a hobo nerd without a car that got married and moved south. Eventually I got a car. Go me. Lets see… 23… that was a BIG year for me. That year I:

Lived on campus…
Was studying for my masters degree…
Managed to graduate and obtain said degree…
Completed driving classes, passed my test, and obtained a drivers license (hey… I was born and raised in NYC… don’t judge me!)
Got married to my sweetie weetie of 5 years…
Moved to Georgia…

So… at 23… I was a hobo nerd without a car that got married and moved south.

Eventually I got a car. Go me.

]]> By: Courtney http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4963 Courtney Tue, 07 Aug 2007 18:50:49 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4963 I'm 23 and its been a ridiculously crazy year. I got married in September and was separated by May. In the meantime I quit a job I hated, took one that isn't exactly what I want (but doesn't make me miserable), and applied to grad school. I hope I can figure whatever it is that I want by 24... I’m 23 and its been a ridiculously crazy year. I got married in September and was separated by May. In the meantime I quit a job I hated, took one that isn’t exactly what I want (but doesn’t make me miserable), and applied to grad school. I hope I can figure whatever it is that I want by 24…

]]> By: Lauren http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4962 Lauren Tue, 07 Aug 2007 17:04:13 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4962 I am only 21 but I graduated from college two years ago, been married for a year and a half, and a homeowner for a year. And I'm currently having a career crisis. I don't know what I want to do! Should I switch jobs? Go back to school? Should I have kids? Be a stay-at-home mom? Move to a different city? Move out to the country? I hope that by the time I am 23, I will have all of this figured out... I am only 21 but I graduated from college two years ago, been married for a year and a half, and a homeowner for a year. And I’m currently having a career crisis. I don’t know what I want to do! Should I switch jobs? Go back to school? Should I have kids? Be a stay-at-home mom? Move to a different city? Move out to the country? I hope that by the time I am 23, I will have all of this figured out…

]]> By: Rayne http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4958 Rayne Tue, 07 Aug 2007 02:02:56 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4958 At 23 I was working a temp job as an office manager in a school. I left that to begin volunteering on a local campaign which gave me a foot in the door to be hired by the legislature and promptly sent off payroll to manage my first campaign. It was wicked hot, I walked in too many parades, then campaign day was super cold and we lost big. Afterwards, I became a press secretary. In December I got engaged. It was a year of big positive changes. At 23 I was working a temp job as an office manager in a school. I left that to begin volunteering on a local campaign which gave me a foot in the door to be hired by the legislature and promptly sent off payroll to manage my first campaign. It was wicked hot, I walked in too many parades, then campaign day was super cold and we lost big. Afterwards, I became a press secretary. In December I got engaged. It was a year of big positive changes.

]]> By: kerrianne http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4956 kerrianne Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:24:19 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4956 At 23 I was spunky and spontaneous and about to stumble upon the greatest romantic relationship I never dreamed of finding, especially because up until that point I had dated asshole after asshole, so delighted! was I at being treated like proverbial poo, and well, being too immature to demand anything better (of myself, or them). I'm hoping I'm still spunky and spontaneous two years later. But voila! No more assholes. Life is good. At 23 I was spunky and spontaneous and about to stumble upon the greatest romantic relationship I never dreamed of finding, especially because up until that point I had dated asshole after asshole, so delighted! was I at being treated like proverbial poo, and well, being too immature to demand anything better (of myself, or them).

I’m hoping I’m still spunky and spontaneous two years later. But voila! No more assholes. Life is good.

]]> By: AMANDA http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/comment-page-2/#comment-4944 AMANDA Mon, 06 Aug 2007 15:36:59 +0000 http://nopasanada.org/2007/08/02/as-an-aside/#comment-4944 I am 23 now. I graduated from college a year ago...and still looking for a job to use that degree Still living at home, which sucks terribly... I'm definitely stuck where I'm at right now, but trying to be patient and stay positive. Hopefully things will get better. I am 23 now.

I graduated from college a year ago…and still looking for a job to use that degree

Still living at home, which sucks terribly…

I’m definitely stuck where I’m at right now, but trying to be patient and stay positive. Hopefully things will get better.

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